If you stop to
think about it, you know the difference between those who make smart,
considered choices, and those who seem to let life push them around. You
probably know people who succeed despite difficulties and bad breaks,
and people who seem to have everything handed to them, but still can’t
get it together. You know people whose lives seem full of satisfaction
and accomplishment, and others who don’t feel that they have achieved
anything worthwhile, so their lives are full of regret and complaints.
Cooperating and being congenial with the people you care about
makes your relationships run more smoothly (at least on the surface).
However, when you relinquish your power to decide for yourself, your self-esteem suffers, and you feel out of control and unimportant, even in your own life.
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As you reflect on the people you know, can you see the
difference between those who know how to make good decisions, and those
who aren’t sure what to do? None of us is completely confident with
every choice we make in life, but those who understand that their
decisions will create their outcome and choose accordingly feel more
secure more of the time.
As a mature adult, you are approaching the time of greater
freedom and greater responsibility toward yourself. Because you’ve lived
long enough to master the basic skills of life, you may be wondering
what else there is. For many in mid-life, going through days focused on
material things and daily chores no longer seems to be sufficient. At
this point, people begin to search for a different kind of meaning.
“What is my life about?” they ask. “I have most everything I want. Why
doesn’t it feel like enough?”
Understanding the
important issues of this phase of your life, and being prepared to
re-evaluate your goals, find meaning, and make new choices are the tasks
you face now. How you meet these challenges will make the difference in
how satisfying and rewarding the rest of your life will be. From
experience, you know you cannot control everything that happens to you.
But you can control the your reaction and response to the events around
you. If you can think clearly despite changes, surprises and unplanned
circumstances, you will make good choices, and succeed in all the ways
you want to.
You can reorganize and restructure your goals to take care of
yourself physically, emotionally, financially and socially, no matter
what your life circumstances have brought you. This is your opportunity
to make the most of your life, to bring long-awaited dreams into reality, and to create meaning and satisfaction for yourself.
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