Sunday, 27 December 2015

5 Ways To Attract Positive Relationships Into Your Life


As we travel through our life's journey, many relationships will come into our lives. Some of them will be wonderful and long lasting; others, unfortunately, may be short term or unhappy.
Do you tend to attract more negative relationships than positive? Though we strive to develop good, solid, and happy relationships, it seems we sometimes end up with exactly the opposite. Wouldn't you love to attract more positive relationships? The good news is, you can!
Try some of these simple tips to enjoy more positive relationships in your life:
1. Patience. Wonderful relationships don't occur overnight. They take time to nurture and develop into something that's long lasting. To allow these relationships into your life, you must have the patience to let them grow.
  • When you begin a relationship that you perceive as being a positive one, don't rush it. You may be very pleased to see what develops down the road.
2. Believe that you're deserving of it. Be positive and avoid negative feelings or perceptions about yourself. Know that you deserve to have happy, stable relationships in your life.
  • If you begin to think negatively, you must turn these negative thoughts around immediately. Clear your mind and regain your self-confidence.
  • Remember, positive attracts positive. When you think positive thoughts, you'll be rewarded with positive results.
  • You'll ultimately attract positive relationships into your life with the positive energy you're giving off to others. So be a good example of the friend or partner you look to attract!
3. Be true to yourself and others. If you're not true to yourself, whether you believe it or not, others will sense this. Don't try to be something that you're not; this is a negative way of portraying yourself to others.
  • As mentioned before, positive attracts positive, but negative attracts negative as well. Show others your true self, including your flaws. They'll appreciate your open and willing heart and be able to form a strong bond with you more easily.
  • Be genuine to others and allow them to see your true feelings and personality. Trying too hard to act like someone else could lead to embarrassment for you.
4. Don't take relationships for granted. Remember to always give thanks for the valuable relationships in your life. They may not be as numerous as you'd like, but rather than complaining, be thankful for the ones you have now and have had in the past.
  • By professing your gratitude genuinely, you'll have an easier time attracting future positive relationships.
5. Be honest. If you're in a negative relationship right now, that will tend to keep positive relationships from coming into your life. Be honest with yourself and others. Make a conscious decision to either improve that relationship or end it. 


Friday, 25 December 2015

FIVE Online Dating Rules


1: The Site DOES Matter
The site you choose to join does matter! Each site will potentially have different types of people possessing different relationship goals and it’s important to know this before you sign up for the site. 
2: People DO Misrepresent Themselves
I know it’s difficult to fathom that some people lie but it’s true.  These lies can range in severity from over-exaggerations and twenty year old photographs to flat-out lies about their relationship status (you’d be surprised how many singles really aren’t).  You should approach online dating no differently than you would if a stranger walked up to you in a bar and offered to buy you a drink.  Don’t rush into anything.  A healthy dose of scepticism combined with a balance of expectation and reality will not only help to ensure your safety but will also increase your chance of success!
3: Different Places, Different Paces
It’s important to keep in mind that everyone has different lives outside of dating.  Be patient and understanding that some people don’t check their online dating email every day and you may not receive a reply right away.  I always recommend taking the high road when it comes to communicating online.  If you aren’t receiving responses in the amount of time that you’d expect don’t disregard the contact.  Take it as a sign that they may not be that interested, they simply have a slower pace or that the timing just isn’t right and move on.  You just never know who may come back around when the timing is better, but you’ll never know if you burn those bridges.
4: Perfect on Paper Isn’t Always Perfect
It’s important to understand that it’s ok to not be into someone for reasons that you can’t define.  Chemistry can be something that’s there right away and it can also be something that takes some time to develop.  In either case, if you’re not feeling the spark when you feel you should don’t drag things out.  You deserve a match that deserves you!  As always, a healthy dose of balance between expectation and reality is important.
5: Some People Won’t Respond
Online dating is much more anonymous than meeting people in the real world.  If you were approached by someone in public and they said “hi”, how would it look if you ignored them?  This standard does not apply to online dating.  You should prepare yourself to not hear from potential matches that you reach out to.  Try not to take this personally; it doesn’t mean that you’re undesirable it simply means they are not interested.  I would also advise against highlighting people in this area.  It makes you look like an idiot and will only provide you with temporary vindication.  Besides, you never know how busy someone is, or if your paths will cross in some other way and burning bridges is rarely a good idea.


Sunday, 20 December 2015

Are You Ready For Mature Dating?


If you've lost a significant other, then it's time to stand up, brave your heart and continue a course that has long been forgotten: DATING.
Granted, it should be understood that age does not necessarily equate to maturity, but most seniors (hopefully) have come to view ideas and events differently than they viewed them in their 20s or 30s.

Are you ready for mature dating?

According to an online suite 101 article, there are many benefits of age that may naturally be implemented in mature dating.  Opinions to the contrary, this isn't necessary a bad thing.  Many Seniors take time to explore their talents or simply to observe more deeply than perhaps they have ever observed in their lives.
Take time to walk in beautiful gardens or to listen to music as you sit and talk softly.

Some questions that will revel your date's interests and personality:

  • What is your most treasured possession and why?
  • Which is the last book you read?
  • Which is the one job in the world that you would love to do?
  • Do you believe a cup is half empty or half full?
  • If you could travel through time, what single mistake would you correct in life?
Mature Dating:  less worry over physical appearance!
That's freedom - Take time to love who you are. 


Sunday, 13 December 2015

Life After Divorce - What To Avoid Once You're Single Again


With the right person, being involved is such a blessing, but being single does not necessarily mean being lonely. Avoid these "singles" habits and you will be on the way to recovering from a divorce or separation and a starting point to getting a life back:

Looking back and living in the past- you can never move forward if you try to hold on to the past, a bitter one at that. It prevents you from seeing the beauty of the possibilities that lie ahead. Hatred /bitterness clouds the psyche and drains the spirit. It is always counterproductive and will never do any good. Let go of the negative and start working on positive energy.

Letting go of taking care of yourself - when we feel low and lost, we tend to neglect our physical appearance, health and fitness. Self confidence 101 starts with feeling good about yourself: don't get me wrong - physical isn't everything nor the main thing, but if we can help our self-esteem by improving what we can in the physical aspect, it will always be a bonus and a start to building your confidence. Get into shape, be active, eat healthfully to make you feel lighter and better. Get a good haircut, dress well to make you feel good, treat yourself to a spa and some pampering.

Neglecting other aspects of your life - It may be hard to concentrate on your family, career or your favorite activities, but to neglect these things will definitely spell disaster. Rather, use the opportunity of being single to concentrate on your kids, career and favorite activities to keep your mind busy and further add to your self-confidence. Just because your personal life is low doesn't mean you should let other parts of your life take a downhill path as well.

Retreating into your own world - while there is always some value in having time alone, doing this for an extended period of time and sulking or wallowing in self-pity and bitterness will only make you feel worse. Use this time to specially bond with your kids, they need you more than ever as they are affected somehow with their parents' divorce. Get out, go with friends to have happy times ( not sulk with equally low friends - keep each others' spirits up!). Indulge in activities that will allow you more social interaction like group sports, dancing or socio-civic activities. For your times alone, reading worthwhile books will help - the Bible can do you wonders to reconnect spiritually. Or indulge in a favorite hobby, one that really gives you fulfillment.  

Coping with divorce is a long gradual process, but bottom line is always to move forward and strive towards using this negative experience to make one a stronger and better person.