Tuesday, 23 June 2015

Keep Yourself and Your Date Happy - With Friendly Dating


Dating is the best way to get to know someone and if you’re single, increase your chances of finding the right relationship and partner. Over the years, the concept of dating has evolved and people now take a date as a casual affair as opposed to a form of courtship as it once was. People can now go out on dates to the movies, mall, restaurant, and bar or just about anywhere without having to be formal toward each other. If you’re already in a relationship, dating more often than not will help strengthen the bond with your partner. As a guy, surprise her by taking her out on unplanned dates to places she likes visiting. For women, you could surprise your man by asking him to take a walk with you but luring him someplace that he has always wanted to visit.

It is important to maintain friendly dating to keep the relationship strong and lively. Couples who take each other for granted will either get bored or eventually decide on parting ways due to lack of spice in their lives. After all, it is human nature to desire for interesting moments in our lives as it helps break the monotony or our mundane daily affairs.
Friendly dating can also be maintained by pre-planning which places you and your partner would like to visit. Laugh, smile, joke and be happy with your partner. That is the best way to have a healthy relationship that will last for a long time to come.
For singles, finding the right partner can be a bit of a challenge. However, with the use of the internet taken for granted in our daily lives, you will always be able to find a date through various dating sites. If it’s friendly dating you’re looking for, you could make it clear to everyone that you’re not yet ready for a serious relationship and would prefer to get to know the person first.
The most important characteristics that you or anyone will generally look for in a date are a strong and interesting personality, a high level of understanding, a good sense of humor combined with a sweet and friendly smile. 


Saturday, 20 June 2015

Words CAN Hurt - Consider What You Say and How


What you say to the one you love is important! Negative and hurtful statements can have the power to cut through the very fabric of the bond between two people in love. Words can damage and potentially destroy the foundation of your relationship. Make no mistake about that.
The advice about what you should NEVER say to the one you love comes from the thousands of successfully married couples we have interviewed throughout the world. 

Don’t ever say these five things to your partner: 

1. I told you so! Trust us on this – these four words are rarely ever used in successful marriages. This kind of “comeuppance” has no place in a loving relationship. There is no need to remind your spouse that you were right about something and they were wrong. Talk about wasted criticism.

2. It’s your fault! Sometimes, a financial decision goes bad, one of your children gets in trouble at school, or some household calamity occurs. And know this – things do go bad from time to time in any relationship. Decisions turn out wrong. Stuff happens! But the blame game never works! It alienates. It divides. It most certainly undermines trust and openness in your relationship.

3. In a public setting, saying “I am mad at you about because . . . ” Telling private secrets or criticizing your spouse in public or to someone else can do permanent damage to the trust in your relationship. True or not – it doesn’t matter. Keep private things private.

4. Why do you always . . . Focusing on your spouse’s weakness rather than building on their strengths will only increase their weakness and diminish their strength. This habit can send a relationship into a downward spiral if weaknesses are pointed out and commented upon. Success does breed success. Stick with the strengths and don’t focus on weakness.

5. Seriously? Talk about a conversation stopper. “Seriously” is an automatic put-down. It assumes that you think your partner is wrong and instantly puts them in their place.
Since saying negative or hurtful things can be damaging to a loving relationship, it is wise to take extra caution before engaging your mouth when these negative thoughts come to your mind.


Here are some questions to ask yourself before you speak: 

1. Will my comment hurt? Sometimes we just blurt out things that are hurtful or negative without thinking about their impact. 

2. Am I just mad and do I need to wait before I speak? When you are mad is not a good time to judge whether a statement will have long-lasting negative impact. Just be silent for a moment to determine if you are acting reasonably or if you are too mad to judge the damage you will invoke by your statement. 

3. Is it worth it? There is so much long-term damage that can be caused by negative or hurtful comments that it really has to be a critically important issue to take that type of risk. 

4. Could it be said a different way? Many times a negative or hurtful statement can be said in a positive manner. Often with a bit of time to reflect it will become apparent that there really was no need to make the statement at all.
All too often people forget that one negative or hurtful statement can undo an entire day’s positive actions and words, damaging the very core of the relationship. So, be mindful to choose words that will enhance your relationship each and every day.

Tuesday, 16 June 2015

Starting Over - Looking for Friendship or Romance?


We all come to a point in our lives where we need or want a special someone to share our lives with, but where do we find this person. Where do we look?
Statistically in this day and age 1 out of every 5 relationships begins online. There is a smorgasbord of singles that are all online for the same purpose. This helps narrow down your search, but the question is what online dating site is best for you? This is where the real hunting begins.
First you need to narrow down exactly what it is you are looking for: Friendship, casual dating, romance, or a serious long-term relationship. Once you know what it is you seek you can most likely find a social network or dating site that is specifically for your socializing purpose.
Now that you have narrowed down what you are looking for in a relationship, and the dating sites that are best suited for you, you should join one or more dating sites answering all compatibility questions honestly and accurately. This will help the dating sites search engine find you the types of people you, are most compatible with hence shrinking the gap between you and your new special someone.

Here is where your future is in your hands. You must now make the first move and say hello to those matches to which you find attractive. Even if you are shy, online dating is the perfect way for you to learn how to become a social butterfly. It also gives you the perfect opportunity to really get to know someone before you talk on the phone or meet him or her in person.
So you have now found that perfect someone that you enjoy chatting with and get along amazingly and they want to meet you. First in person dates for online dating experiences should be casual and fun. Try meeting for lunch or an early dinner, somewhere populated and fun that will help take the first date pressure off of both of you. This way if you hit it off and want to spend more time together the night is still young.

Ultimately, where the relationship leads is up to you and what your goals are.