Wednesday, 25 June 2014

Looking For Love - Are You Searching In The Right Place?

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We all come to a point in our lives where we need or want a special someone to share our lives with, but where do we find this person. Where do we look?

Statistically in this day and age 1 out of every 5 relationships begins online. There is a smorgasbord of singles that are all online for the same purpose. This helps narrow down your search, but the question is what online dating site is best for you? This is where the real hunting begins.

First you need to narrow down exactly what it is you are looking for: Friendship, casual dating, romance, or a serious long-term relationship. Once you know what it is you seek you can most likely find a social network or dating site that is specifically for your socializing purpose.

Now that you have narrowed down what you are looking for in a relationship, and the dating sites that are best suited for you, you should join one or more dating sites answering all compatibility questions honestly and accurately. This will help the dating sites search engine find you the types of people you, are most compatible with hence shrinking the gap between you and your new special someone.  Here is where your future is in your hands. You must now make the first move and say hello to those matches to which you find attractive. Even if you are shy, online dating is the perfect way for you to learn how to become a social butterfly. It also gives you the perfect opportunity to really get to know someone before you talk on the phone or meet him or her in person.

So you have now found that perfect someone that you enjoy chatting with and get along amazingly and they want to meet you. First in person dates for online dating experiences should be casual and fun. Try meeting for lunch or an early dinner, somewhere populated and fun that will help take the first date pressure off of both of you. This way if you hit it off and want to spend more time together the night is still young.

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Tuesday, 17 June 2014

Transform Your Relationship

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Conflicts inherent in a relationship are the building blocks to transformation if people are open to stepping out and exploring their differences.
Sometimes it takes a “wake-up” call to kick us out of mediocrity. In working with couples, we share that the conflicts that begin to surface when one partner (or both) gets bored, frustrated or angry are cause for celebration because nothing is going wrong. Couples often look at conflicts as problems to solve as quickly as possible, yet what if they were seen as building blocks to a transformed relationship? We might welcome them and yes, celebrate them! We might get curious and want to understand our partner more.

Here is an equation to a transformed relationship:


Notice that action is the multiplying factor and that without action nothing changes.

Here are some questions to ask yourself if you know that you desire more in your relationship:
* Where do I stay in the comfort zone in my intimate relationship?
* How is it impacting me?
* How is it impacting my partner?
* Am I willing to make a change?
* What am I willing to consider doing differently to step out of my comfort zone?
* Am I willing to explore the idea that nothing is going wrong?
* Am I willing to explore our differences?
* Can I keep an open mind to the possibility of a transformed relationship?

Have you ever found yourself doing the same things day after day and you begin to wonder, “Is this all there is to my life?”  Also known as living in the comfort zone, this place can be seductive for all of us. We are often very comfortable, of course and that can have us reacting and responding to our partners in automatic, habitual ways. This is far from sexy!
We are meant to live in our zone of genius and when the comfort zone gets boring and downright uncomfortable that is actually a time for celebration.  This is when you can focus on change.
There is absolutely no growth in the comfort zone and relationships will not change for the better when we continue doing the same old things.
We know this in our conscious mind yet it’s the sub-conscious mind that is in charge of our automatic, habitual ways. Once we realize this and welcome some discomfort, things begin to change.

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Friday, 13 June 2014

How To End Emotional Abuse And Restore Your Self Worth


Do you know many individuals find themselves so irretrievably stuck in emotionally abusive relationships that often they literally become "numb" to the toxic consequences of their situation? Do you know this "unconsciousness" is perhaps the single most important factor keeping one stuck in and enduring such suffering?
Do you know that many justify their unconscious state with negative limiting beliefs such as: I don't deserve better, No one else will be attracted to me, I'm afraid of being alone, I will not be able to take care of myself, I lack the self-confidence to go out and find a better relationship, All relationships are the same etc.? Do you know that these beliefs behave like enslaving hypnotic trance-like states that one can permanently wake up from, become free, empowered and finally able to have self respecting healthy relationships? Want to learn more about how this can help you change your life? Remaining unconscious is tantamount to lying to one's self about what is actually being experienced! So why would anyone ever want to do that, you might ask?
Yes, I realize that logically it makes absolutely no "adult" sense, yet from the perspective of a vulnerable, helpless and dependent child who, say, is being emotionally abused, the only way that they may be able to tolerate the emotional (and also often "physical") pain is to go into a sort of illusionary fantasy world where they a) numb themselves to the pain and b) create false interpretations of why the abuse is happening to them.
These interpretations help them to cope with the fact that they are unsafe, insecure, helpless, alone, unloved, and unwanted, etc.
For a child such feelings can make them feel extremely overwhelmed and hence must be avoided at all costs. Now because they often have little or no control over their situation they attempt to "assume" control (as bizarre as this may sound) by choosing to believe that what is happening has something to do with them i.e. they are unlovable, defective, inadequate, unattractive, unworthy etc.
Such negative "self" beliefs, in a weird way, makes them feel like they might be able to change the current circumstances if only they can change themselves i.e. do things to make themselves more lovable, wanted, perfect, worthy, attractive, etc. This strategy unfortunately is built upon the negative self beliefs that effectively never actually disappear, no matter how hard the person works at changing themselves.
As they enter their adult years this means that they feel unworthy of a healthy relationship and inevitably find themselves drawn to and stuck in relationships that are only too familiar i.e. emotionally abusive ones.


If one could wake up from the hypnotic trance state that these negative self beliefs create one would finally be able to free themselves and also begin to experience their true confident, empowered, independent, strong, resilient, capable and self-sufficient adult state.
Many of these beliefs, as stated are rooted in early relationship experiences that remain stored in the subconscious mind as negative memories. As these "memory programs" are deleted the beliefs they generate and support also dissolve allowing the person to awaken and be free.
A new coaching process developed a decade ago has been helping individuals around the world wake up to and become their true mature, authentic, independent, strong, self-confident, resilient, self respecting self; this inevitably leads to self respecting relationships.
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Tuesday, 10 June 2014

Mature Dating - Perfect Your Online Dating Profile

Online Dating can be a very rewarding experience, but also at times an extremely daunting one. No matter how confident or professionally successfully you are, signing up to a dating site is a scary prospect. Perhaps one of the biggest worries is how to portray yourself effectively in so few lines?
Your online dating profile can be as important as a photo in attracting perspective dates, but how do you sum yourself up accurately and impressively in so few words? Luckily following these few simple tips can make this process a lot easier for you and make your dating experience a whole lot more successful.
  1. Be Positive! It is essential to be positive in your approach to online dating and in how you represent yourself. Negativity is a turn off, so in your profile talk about things you love not hate, and how excited you are to be joining a online dating  service, not how nervous or apprehensive you maybe.
  2. Be Unique! There will be thousands of profiles out there; many will be very similar and typical. Make yours stand out from the crowd, don't worry about putting the odd person off, you'll attract much more interest through your individuality and uniqueness.
  3. Use Examples – When describing yourself, don't just say that you like films, say what films you like. If you like reading, what books do you like? If you describe yourself as funny, be funny in your online dating profile, don't just claim it.
  4. Honesty – There may be a big temptation to embroider the truth or even just make things up. You don't need to, you are interesting and exiting enough as you are. Plus if a relationship does happen then these lies may be hard to cover up and come back to bite you.
  5. Photo – Photos are integral to dating websites, despite other temptations you should pick a good, but honest and fairly recent photo of yourself, doing otherwise will just cause complications later. Let the photo show the kind of person you are, if your sporty why not use a picture of you playing a sport?
  6. Relax – One of the biggest advantages of online dating sites is that there is little pressure. Unlike meeting face to face you don't need to be quick witted or confident to impress. You can take your time in producing an impressive profile that says everything you want about yourself, you can make your perfect first impression.

The online dating world is an exciting one, with a lot of opportunities and if you  follow these tips you should be well on the way to many successful dates.

Thursday, 5 June 2014

10 Flirting Guidelines for Men


1) Kick off your interaction with energy!
Greet people in a cheerful, spirited, but above all, energetic way. The very first impression is key, and it's a lot more difficult to kick off your interaction in a low-energy way and build up than it is to begin full of energy and let things settle down.
The more energy you have at the start, the more ready she'll be to let herself to be carried away by your energy.  Yes, you can have too much energy, and come across like a nut. Do not do that. Adjust your energy level suitable to the situation. You need to be just a little bit more energetic than she is, though not too much more. Entering a relaxed dinner discussion like you're on the dance floor at a nightclub is not going to work.
2) Make good eye contact.
Few things communicate your confidence better than making direct eye contact. Always look her in the eyes, and hold eye contact longer than what is generally considered comfortable in typical situations.
A solid gaze is commonly quite seductive, and helps create a strong connection between the 2 of you.
3) Use her name in your conversation.
When you repeat a woman's name while speaking to her does several things:
First, it shows the girl that you're actually making an effort to use her name and remember it.
In a subtle way, it helps create familiarity and comfort when you mention someone's name while talking to them. If you do this, she will feel comfortable and familiar with you instantly!
4) Ask questions, but do it correctly.
Girls love talking about themselves, and it's good to show some interest in her. However, do not overdo it since it's easy to come off as putting too much value on her. So don't make that error.
Be interested in her, and collect some details to identify common interests in between you two. Commonalities that you can utilize to develop additional connection.
For example, if she mentions having been to Hong Kong and you've been there as well, you can relate to that and begin discussing your own adventures there. This will help create a strong emotional connection.
5) Talk about your life experiences.
Just like with the Hong Kong example, sharing experiences you've experienced and adventures you have had helps form her thoughts of you and catches her imagination. By sharing specific stories, you can direct her opinion of you and have her believe exactly what you want her to believe about you.
6) Use flattery.
There is an old saying, "Flattery will get you everywhere!" And undoubtedly, women enjoy it when men say flattering things about them - as long as it's real and original.
You do not want to seem insincere or find yourself caught in a lie, or go around compromising your integrity by giving out compliments for things you do not truly find attractive. even more important, you don't want to be giving the same compliments everyone else does - then you just look like everyone else!
Simply put, if you can tell she gets compliments on her smile all the time, find something a bit more unique to compliment. Like possibly how her smile makes her eyes crinkle in a charming way.
The secret to flattery is to set yourself apart from every nerd complimenting her on the exact same smile.
7) Once in a while, whisper.
Do this in such a way that it fits the context, of course, but there are few things more sexy and flirtatious than whispering. Leaning in to someone and lowering your voice builds an aura of intimacy that can not be resisted. In fact, the closer you get when whispering, the greater the level of intimacy and the stronger the emotional connection.
8) Fill your voice with self-confidence.
The last thing you want to do while flirting is to come off as not sure, insecure, or scared. Be secure in yourself and your knowledge.
If she says something you disagree with, don't hesitate to set the record straight or get into a light argument if you need to. Provided you don't go overboard, women react well to self-confidence and male aggression.
9) Use nicknames.
When you give a name to something, you are symbolically conveying ownership over it. So when you give a nickname to a woman, you are concurrently establishing your dominance of the communication and building an image she needs to live up to.
For instance, if she is cute and shy, you can call her hello kitty. Tease her and make some jokes on it. Soon, she'll come to associate hello kitty with you and try to live up to the cute image solely for you.
10) Leave her wanting for more.
You don't want to exhaust everything in your flirting toolbox right away, so change between flirting and not flirting. Flirting continually comes off as too strong, and it might be hard for you to keep putting that much energy into your interaction. Switching keeps you from wearing out even as it keeps the interaction going.
Also, it permits you to extend the communication so when it's time to part ways, she'll still be interested in hearing more from you. A lot of guys will begin the flirting with high energy and let the energy drop so by the end, the woman has gotten her fill of you.
So always end your flirting on a high note that leaves her wanting more!